Dating the military

Attraction is not much of an issue with our military members!

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Men and women in the military lead busy lives — to say the least.

Not only are they fighting for our country and our freedom, but they can also be away from family, friends, and their homes for months or sometimes years at a time.

Earlier that day, while walking Tuki and enjoying the fresh air during a much-needed break from work, I listened to the Happy Hour – Next Gen Mil Spouse podcast. Sometimes it’s the best thing, sometimes it’s the worst thing, and sometimes you wonder why in the hell you’re even doing this anyway (btw, the answer is because you get to travel a lot and also because have you a man in uniform?! The podcast that I was listening to linked me to this blog post on their website titled “Are You Feeling Conflicted About Sacrificing Your Career,” and I, of course, read it as soon as I got back to the apartment.

They aren’t afraid to tell it like it is and be candid about life in the military. “ It doesn’t mean you’re a bad girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse. It means you have ambition, drive, and goals, and that’s freaking beautiful. Without getting too deep into my own story (if you sift through my posts, you’ll quickly discover what kind of woman I am), I do want to stress the importance of my loves. Acting, writing, performing, having a network of people who make me feel accepted and who are like me, comedy, Comedy, COMEDY.

We didn’t just It doesn’t make us lazy or dependent or unambitious. If there ever was a thing I was not, it’s submissive, and I’m ashamed I even thought this was factual to begin with, but you live and learn. 😉 But that’s not entirely fair to say, so I will state that just because you move for a man, doesn’t mean you aren’t a strong woman. There’s so much that I have learned since moving to DC.

all of this is so important to me, because it makes me who I am, you see? And the impending fear of losing all of that is enough to make me freak out and panic and question why I am here. And then I found this article: “10 Things Every Mil Spouse Needs to Start Doing Right Now” and the first one is to start accepting military life, and it’s as if the weight of the world lifted off of my shoulders. Just because we’re dating a service member doesn’t mean our lives are put on hold. This doesn’t even include the amount of research I do on local plays, comedy shows, and more in the area and the countless hours I spend thinking about all of this, all of the time, every single day.

If your partner is in the military and travels a lot you have a partial long distance relationship. There are, no doubt, challenges to being away from your partner.

They may have to go away at times that aren’t convenient.

Turns out that could be what ignites a flame in the relationship and keeps it going.

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