validating carrier - Internet dating and texting

“Good night, sweet Angel,” he texts you, just before you turn off your phone for the night. This may be due to the fact that so many more people today are using dating sites, social networks and various online forums to meet and interact with new people.

Sure, he’s an online boyfriend who lives halfway across the world – but he’s the best guy who’s ever come into your life. According to a 2013 study by the market research firm IBISWorld, nearly 35% of married couples met online.

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If it doesn’t go well, you would expect it to lesson or stop altogether. As a “modern woman,” you begin to wonder if you should simply take the bull by the horns and text first. Keeping it relevant to texting, however, the lack of it can appear to be a lack of interest when in reality, the man is simply a grown-up with a big-boy job, not much time, and no appreciation for the art of texting. I’m not going to bullshit you and say, “From now on, I’m going to take control and text first.” Puh-lease… When it’s right, it’s right and there won’t be these confusing mind games…

However, if mind games are being played, or both parties happen to have a stubborn streak, the lack of texts on the day after the first date might not indicate the success of the date at all. You start googling things like “after first date texting rules” and “should a girl text a guy first.” You read a Reddit thread like this one and realize maybe you were in the wrong because you never texted to make sure he got home safe and now you just look like a bitch. This makes it even more difficult to decipher if he’s just really busy or just not that into you. Was it because you mentioned you like British comedy? After 72 hours of spiteful, frustrated venting about this jerk that you barely even enjoyed hanging out with, you light up at the first sight of his text and all hope is renewed.

I was recently surfing the internet when I came across a very interesting study.

Normally, one study alone is not enough to completely convince me of a concept, however the findings something I have witnessed in my own experiences.

The pre-existing pattern to base the potential between you two might not matter. Though I’m very much an independent, career-oriented, “modern woman,” I still have very traditional views on dating and courtship… In the end, how it all plays out is as simple as this: It was a great date; you felt chemistry and lust, but he did not. Unfortunately, now you’re left wondering how soon you should text your response…

As a marketing nerd, let me just say this does NOT work for me. I like being able to anticipate traction and success to a certain degree. You’ll move onto the next man, but you will always wonder what happened.

The hope is that my two young daughters will read it some day, and become immune to these antics. All it takes is a witty remark or flirty jesting to make a girl smile and break down any defensive shields around her heart.

This is difficult to accomplish in person, because it requires very quick thinking and perfect timing.

However, I found when I introduced myself to a girl online, and they got to know my personality first, the first date would go smoothly.

Unfortunately, through a combination of hormones and immaturity, I learned to perfect this system into one where I could convince nearly any girl at all – from the shy bookworm to the bubbly cheerleader – to become fascinated enough with my persona that they would go on a date with me Now, over twenty years later, I’m going to spill the beans on the tried and true tricks that guys still use online today.

In my college days, many moons ago, I perfected the art of meeting girls online.

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